Self-Esteem vs. Self-Worth vs. Self-Confidence vs. Self-Respect.. What do They all Mean?
Self-esteem is what we think and feel and believe about ourselves. Self-esteem is an internal sense of worth. It reflects an inner confidence and self-respect and self-esteem shines outwardly by the actions one takes.
Self-worth is recognizing “I am greater than all of those things”. It is a deep knowing that you have value, that you are lovable, necessary to this life, and of incomprehensible worth. It is possible to feel “high self-esteem,” or in other words, to think you’re good at something, yet still not feel convinced that you are lovable and worthy. Self-esteem doesn't last or “work” without self-worth.
Tara has recognized this for years. She has known that she has a special gift for making jewelry, yet for some reason she has had no self-worth. She has sabotaged her progress and her self-improvement efforts on numerous occasions.
Self-confidence is a feeling of trust in one’s own abilities, qualities and judgement. Self-esteem is confidence in one’s own worth or abilities. Self-respect is pride and confidence in oneself. By creating limits and giving yourself a favorable value, you demand others do the same. This will cultivate healthy relationships as well as develop a strong sense of self.
At Bobu.com, Bob says:
Self-Esteem + Self-Confidence + Self-Respect = Self-Worth
Self-Worth = Net-Worth (in business). What are you worth?
The self-esteem which evolves on the inside is usually publicly cast on the outside. Your internal self-worth which consists of your self-esteem, self-confidence and self-respect will equal your external net-worth. In other words, self-esteem is a matter of internal pride.
Compare an individual with powerful self-esteem and high net-worth to another with weak self-esteem and low net-worth. What are the obvious differences? Does self-esteem play a major role? Of course it does. Self-esteem is the essence of a personality, and strong self-esteem produces confidence. Is it possible that positive self-esteem is the basis for a celebrated mindset? A mindset is an established set of attitudes which may draw from either a positive or negative self-esteem. Each individual attitude is the result of particular experiences and beliefs.
On a scale of 0 – 10 (low to high), how would you rate your level of self-esteem, self-confidence and self-respect? Calculate the average level of the three senses of worth? The conclusion is your self-worth, which ultimately determines your level of net-worth as it pertains to business.
Please note there are ways to improve your self-esteem and therefore, increase your level of self-worth. I believe we all came into this world with an evenly matched level of self-esteem. We were equal human beings regardless of race, religion, color, nationality, sex, title or role. However, our exposure to the outside world permitted influences to over shadow our true self-esteem. We have created our own fears, limitations and boundaries based on our experiences. Over time, this has altered our perceptions. Our self-esteem is diminished and our self-worth suddenly has limitations. We are smart, educated adults and should be able to distinguish between fact and fiction. For example, have you ever done something silly or unexpected, and thought, ”I’m so stupid!”? You probably aren’t an idiot, yet saying this to yourself over time can make it true in your mind. What you believe to be true about yourself usually generates the equivalent self-esteem, self-confidence and self-respect. We need to remove some of the baggage that has been holding us back, lowering our self-esteem, self-confidence and self-respect.
We need to boost our self-esteem by acknowledging our worth and managing our emotions. Simply by changing our internal thinking, we can reclaim our self-esteem, self-confidence and self-respect and strive for an elevated level of self-esteem as our standard. This is a level of self-esteem from which to begin not end. It is a known fact that if we don’t believe in ourselves, no one else will either. How we feel about ourselves, our self-esteem, is reflected in our daily conversations, our body language and our abilities. We are responsible for our destiny and anything is possible with high quality self-esteem. There are ways to boost your self-esteem. Begin by setting attainable goals for yourself. Make your dreams a reality. Accept support and encouragement from others. Learn from your mistakes. It won’t take long before your self-esteem is back to ten or more. Realistically, self-esteem is the difference between success and failure. We all want success and therefore, we must do whatever it takes to boost our self-esteem daily.
What results are you looking for? What actions must you take? What type of self-esteem do you need to experience self-worth? You must believe in yourself – the most important person in the world to you. You are the all inclusive package of self-esteem, self-confidence and self-respect.
All three attributes equal your self-worth, and in turn, your self-worth will translate externally into your net-worth. Where do you rate your self-esteem? What are you worth?